"It's more of Brown coloured sweet water !!!", I frowned at the cup of Tea.
"Ye tera ghar nahi hai jo tujhe Adrak wali kadak chai mile. This is Hostel (This is not your home, where you get Ginger Tea)", said Ranju quickly having her first sip.
"There is a Tea stall nearby. Shall we go?", I asked.
"Nahi Didi.... Have you seen any girl having Tea there???", asked Preeti - The most girlie kind of a girl I ever met.
"No... but...", I thought for a while.
"Let's be the first ones to do that.", Ranju completed my sentence.
So... We went near the Tea-stall. Somewhere around 10 customers (all men) were there.
"Bhaiyya, Teen Chai", I said. ... We felt that everyone there is staring at us with amusement. "Parcel", continued Ranju adjusting my request.
We get the comfort zone only when we can't be singled out in crowd. Don't know why, but we girls (specially Indian girls) tend to think more in this way.. We are perhaps to some extent brought up that way. We have to think a lot on "What will others think ?, Does it look good?"
Going for shopping alone?? - Ahem... Is it that urgent? Let me wait for some company.
Going for a movie alone --- AAh! that's completely insane...
Having Lunch/Dinner in a restaurant alone - Better I take parcel.
Wanna catch a bus? Gotto run?? - Most of the girlie girls prefer to wait for the next bus and walk in their standard speed.
Want to play an outdoor game - Again, you seek for company, a proper park ( you don't really appreciate the thought of playing in the Gali.) Guys can play Gali cricket, but gals cant play in Gali (that's an unsaid rule). We all know that most of the girls after teenage give up playing outdoor games (there's some exception, though). They loose interest because most of the times they don't get the right company... and it is hard to get such company in such society.
I know some of my friends, who seriously depend upon their boyfriends / Brothers for the smallest of the daily needs that come across. We have this thick shell of the so called protection around us that coming out of it is a big deal. You get so much accustomed to it that you don't feel anything wrong in it, and in fact, you start liking it.
I'm not talking about "Naari Shakti Zindabad" stuff. I'm not arguing that girls and boys are equally strong physically and mentally.
I just want to say that women of 21st century should come out of the cocoon of stereotypes she is confined to, to some extent, if not fully. Come out from it slowly and steadily, if not at once. I just am pondering that to have a single cup of tea in a tea stall, you are bound to think.. WHY?? Is it because of the society we live in or is it my own "inside the box" thinking???
Sowji im inspired.. from 2morow onward we will stand among the boys and will have tea.
ReplyDeleteWell very rare topic, which really required a second thinking.
But girls mein kuch garly part to rehega na thats why they are called GIRLS;)
Nice post liked it.
hmm..i was considered crazy coz i dont mind & perhaps,love shopping alone-going for a long walk on the beach-yes,alone:can watch a mvy alone-ignoring the stares of the guy @ d ticket counter whn i say-"1 ticket".for them it seems so next to an impossibility they always cross-check with me twice b4 handing over d ticket ;)
ReplyDelete@Ranju - Lets c :)
ReplyDelete@Trans - Di... Its really awesome. You inspire me in many ways; But still will take time to go for a movie alone though... ;)
To start
ReplyDelete@trans: ur asm..
@sow. @all commenties ;)
It is not abt..girls coming out of cocoons..
there are places where boys feel the same..
1.when a guy goes to busy ladies tailor to get clothes of sister or who ever.(we feel like what the hell i am doing here..)
2. when a guy waiting at girls college to pik up someone...(no other reason);)
3.when a guy tries to buy bangles in chudi bazar.or saree(u should see his face).
4.Or guys commenting on the above....as i am feeling now..
It is human to feel odd..to doo odd thing in an odd environment.. whether you are the one doing..it or seeing the odd thing....
i guess..i need end my odd comment here.. else i get .,odd.. ood ok stop..
BTW Khun the feeling which make you feel that you are in a cocoon.. as you are not in one.....
i truely understand..there are some things... in society.. which more seriuos than chai pinaa and cricket khelanaa.. which needs to be addressed..(comment tho da serious ho raha hai)
jaha tak maine suna haiii...
What ever comes out of cocoon is beautiful.. i guess...only when it comes out..as it supposed to be..( wah wah.. kya Intellectual bath kahi hai..)
Above stmt is ambi...statement.. depends on the cocoon ur in... to understand..
i am tired...;)
i was wondering...if all the nonsense i made above is put in to a blog ... It title should ne "Cocoon Ka Khun.." .."Khun Bahra cocoon"
@SadiQ - Thanks for your comment. Mere cocoon ka khun karne k liye Dhanyawaad.. I agree with most of the things in your comment.
ReplyDelete"Or guys commenting on the above....as i am feeling now.." - Hehe.. don't tell me a guy commenting on this is odd...
"What ever comes out of cocoon is beautiful.. i guess...only when it comes out..as it supposed to be" - True. It comes out as it shd come out... but if the one coming out thinks that it will take time and doesnt try to come out.. it will die inside..
"i truely understand..there are some things... in society.. which more seriuos than chai pinaa and cricket khelanaa.. which needs to be addressed.." - I agree, but my dear friend, my blog is not to address social issues. It's about my transformation from the moments of MY life.. :)
@Sow: I understand your ur intention.
ReplyDeletemy response to you ..is in your blog.. if you change the way.. u read it..
try.. as if i am telling u this
"I just want to say that women of 21st century should come out of the cocoon of stereotypes she is confined to, to some extent, if not fully. Come out from it slowly and steadily, if not at once. I just am pondering that to have a single cup of tea in a tea stall, you are bound to think.. WHY?? Is it because of the society we live in or is it my own "inside the box" thinking???"
(SSorrY for copying from Intellectual property....i ment ur blog)hehe
@Sowjee: give it a try,honey..
ReplyDelete@Sadiq: thanx..budzz..& well said....all d 4 points u mentioned..awesomely awesome :P .
//What ever comes out of cocoon is beautiful.. i guess...only when it comes out.//-- brilliant...(bow emoticon)
i like the theme of your blog, learning something new and blogging it in a really beautiful manner. Some of your posts are a li'l too girly for the boys (excuse me for saying this, but i'm being honest), but some are really good (boys enjoy reading them too), aftrall, everybody is learning something new everyday, and personally, i feel like i've had a few experiences of my own just like the ones in your posts.
ReplyDeleteab no Ctrl+ A & delete!!!!!
ReplyDeleteSimple treatment of a complex issue. good work.
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